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True friends are hard to come by these days, especially those who put their friends first before anything else (apart from family of course). In my hierarchy of relations it comes family first, then friends and then girlfriends/etc. Though it would greatly depend on the situation and the people involved if having to choose between girlfriend and/or friends.

Lately seems as though people or as they call me their “friend” would contact me to get something that would benefit them. “ePlus, can you make me a DVD with some stuff please?”, “ePlus, my computer is broke what do I do?”. And the questions are endless.

Is really disappointing to see that only people need something they actually contact me. I guess it is something to do with my personality that only in the most desperate situations as a last resort people that I know and that I think that are close to me enough to hang out that they contact me whenever they need something, not for the sake of hanging out.

I received phone calls when I was on holiday because people have been having problems with their computer, and I was like expected to know what an “0×00023″ error message is off the top of my head! People seem to live in a different world around here, that’s for sure!

It would be nice, for once, to receive a phone call/text message/IM and to be asked “Hey ePlus, what are you up to? If you’re not doing anything in particular do you want to hang out in town and check out the pussy??. Other than “Hey, what does this error message mean?” I don’t think I have been asked that question since my last good REAL friend left 4 years ago.

But what can you do about it? These days everyone is materialistic and is all about me, me and me. I can’t say much because I am selfish too, but I always try to keep the people that I hang around in the loop.

Post your comments regarding this, what do you think a REAL friendship should consist of?

What are friends? Are they people who you hang around with at school/college/work/etc? Are they people that you meet after work/college/school/etc? Let’s find out who are your real friends.

My idea of a “friend” or “friends” is someone who you can rely up on when you are in need. When you really need someone, they are there to help you. May it be money, relationship, work, whatever, they are there to help you to the best of their abilities. After all they the people who know you best apart from your family.

My concept of a friend is for example in the middle of the night and I need something is urgent, for example I split up with my girlfriend and I get all emotional (Just for reference I haven’t cried when I broke up with someone… Yet ) and I call him/her and say “listen, me and xyz just broke up and I don’t know what to do etc”. Then that “friend” would come down and help me out. Offer me advice and support. That’s what would expect from a real friend. Apart from my mum I wouldn’t take the bullet for anyone else. There is a say which I think I know some of it “A real friend is a friend in need” or something like that, but I’ve found an alternative “A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”. Which is exactly what I am trying to say… Exactly my point. I cannot explain any more as that sentence there explains it all.
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